My Ritual: On Saying No to Say Yes (Cara Meredith’s blog)

Hey friends: I’m in the middle of a new website rollout. And in the middle of all those digital details, I had the pleasure of posting on my friend Cara Meredith’s blog. She’s a fellow Redbud Writer, and she’s been featuring a lovely little series on rituals, the grooves that give our lives meaning.

Hope you’ll catch the rest of the post over on her blog—and let us know what you’re discovering about the importance of saying no. Cheers, Suzanne


“Moving on from ___________” read the subject line in my email.

You can do this, I assure myself.

Historically, I don’t like to quit things.

I am an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality scale—and let me tell you, we can get things done. Consider it a function of our sheer stick-to-itiveness when we feel passionate about something.

(Read: we can’t always let opportunities, things, jobs, or people go when the timing is right.)

(And also: it could be that rituals just might help us say no more effectively.)

So I sent the email. After several years, a recent statement on the organization’s values and beliefs helped me to realize our philosophies were no longer the same. I had become “not the best fit,” and I needed to move on. I mentioned how thankful I was for the opportunity.

Coincidentally, this morning a coauthor and I dropped—as in, ceased—a publishing project I’ve been working on for a year and a half. We ourselves received a lot of “nos” and then a “we’d like to change it to this” that just didn’t work. I cannot even count the hours and emotion that went into what appears to be a failure, but at the moment, is a clear redirection. It may resurrect itself in a different season, but for now, I am being called to put the lid on all that effort. I do so with a mixture of relief, sadness and anticipation.

Read more on Cara’s blog

Who’s right about women leading & the Bible?

That is a question for the ages, isn’t it? 

Fortunately, my friend Dr. Natalie Wilson Eastman, from the Redbud Writers’ Guild, has written an in-depth but practical guide to biblical interpretation. For those of us who don’t have a doctorate, but long to know how to interpret what the Bible says on any given subject, Natalie has graciously brought key principles for exegesis—the art and science of getting to what the Bible says—to a lower shelf. And she’s done it for “women who want to know for themselves.” Genius.

Using the case study of women and leadership in the Church, Natalie gives us a manual for how to discern biblical truth for ourselves. Although we had a few technical difficulties, I managed to pull this video on what a “starting point” is when we approach theology and the Bible. Listen in:

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A whole lot undone over Charleston

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The family members of those murdered at Mother Emanuel popped up on my TV screen, speaking words of forgiveness to Dylan Roof. And I sat in my comfortable blue chair, tears streaming down my face. In the words of a Washington Post … [Continue reading]

Leaning In to our Grief on Christianity Today’s Her•meneutics


Regular blog reader? Consider sharing this post I wrote for Christianity Today on your social networks. And let's encourage everyone to enter their grief, airing their feelings that they might further reveal their faith. In 2013, Sheryl Sandberg … [Continue reading]

On trusting others with our grief

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I haven't been regularly blogging for months, but recent events have opened a vein of some kind, there is blood still pulsing underneath the grief of the last 3 1/2 weeks, and as author Richard Foster has said, "When you write you must bleed." We … [Continue reading]